We all know how gossip works and the way little lies morph into big lies believed by many people. Stalking group organizers use these common pathways of human culture and interaction to inject their own character assassinating bits of disinformation.
In many cases of gang stalking, long before a target is even stalked, the perpetrators set out to fabricate and twist reality through a campaign of character assassination. The usual route is for the perps to make the target appear to have hidden dark secrets, to be highly unstable, a threat to the community or family, a longtime drug abuser, a child molester, prostitute –whatever is perceived by the community to be the most dangerous and/or undesirable type of person.
Recruitment of stalking perpetrators from the target’s community seems to usually involve using the spreading of lies and twisting reality, and often begins before the target has any inkling that he/she is being stalked, therefore the slanderous lies and disinfo propagated by the perps has had ample time to sink in, unchallenged by the target, who has no idea that their family members have been taken in by the group of stalkers. In these cases, the lies told to would-be perpetrators seem even more likely to be true because the target is not denying them (for example), what’s more the target’s behavior seems flagrant to those most taken in by the lies told them by stalking perpetrators: “See, he/she shamelessly goes about as if he/she is not guilty of ____. “, the stalking sales person plies a prospective accomplice.
Once the actual stalking begins, the campaign of slander and careful dissemination of disinformation has set the stage for alienation of the target, socially and professionally, with the goal of isolating the target from emotional support, financial income and any/all avenues of defense, if possible.
Why do Friends/Family Members Go Along with the Stalking Perps?
Goood question. From what I can tell, these so-called caring family members 1) cannot think for themselves and seemingly believe the lies told them about the target, 2) believe the lies and so also believe that the target is in some way deserving of the harassment and attacks, 3) is scared not to cooperate with those who have presented themselves as official law enforcement or government agents, 4) are not privy to most of the information about the extreme lengths of torture and harassment that the target has been subjected to, and/or has been given to believe that such treatment is ‘for the target’s own good’.
Sadly, the reality seems to be that it’s usually a combination of the above items, and does not excuse the friends/family members keeping from the target information about their being contacted by agencies seeking to harm their family member. Regardless of how they may have been lied to or misled, the very act of deceit through withholding information relevant to the safety of the target is a blatant violation of family/friend trust. It is impossible to believe in any of these cases of family/friend involvement that it is unclear to the family members that their participation will only harm the target. note: be very careful about assuming your family is involved, when quite often they are just at a loss as to how to react to what a target reports of their experiences. I merely mean to point out some of what seems to happen in cases where family members of a target so become involved in harassment.
The main reason is that they are weaker than the target
One thing I’ve noticed is that every person who let themselves be taken in by the gang of stalkers in my situation all have similar psychological compositions, though at first glance I would not have said this was true. Only after these friendships had ended, and I was examining my relationships with them, did I see that each one had traits showing a lacking: will, creativity and personal response ability. It seems that throughout the earlier phases of friendship I’d overlooked the seemingly disparate traits as smaller issues each was working with. Then in later interactions while they were pretending to be my friends they put energy into also pretending to be developed people who had similar drives and ambitions as my own.
The moral of the story being that even though I loved these friends and overlooked their bouts of caving to popular demands, it is those traits and patterns of behavior that spoke much louder than the good when looking back on it all. I saw a clearer picture of the lack of situations where they had gone out on a limb to express their own ideas, to follow their own passions. And of the situations I recalled where they had made (even before the stalking) conscious decisions, these decisions were to give in to some group ideal or directive.
When gaslighting started popping up in my circle of friends I started hearing the odd bit, stamped and presented slightly differently by each person, implying that the right thing to do is to conform; one friend would imply that maybe others don’t want to hear my perspective on this or that, referring to private conversation and seeming to imply that he felt I was being selfish by sharing my perspectives. Now, I see that even comments like that are warning signs, whereas I’d always thought that it’s self-evident that if we do not like what someone says it’s up to us to walk away or add our own voice to the mix. What that friends comments were saying is that the he thinks the sharing of personal perspectives is bad if they do not fit in with the status quo. It means I cannot trust he will tell me what his feelings or thoughts are, regardless of whether or not it would help me or alert me to danger. What it means is that he’s in it for himself [period].
The weaknesses of character, the challenges to become their own developed conscious beings, found in stalking accomplices is used against them by the ringleaders. Using the example above, every time I voiced my opinion on something, the friend/stalker was encouraged to see my expressions as blatant disregard for others. When, obvious to more self-possessed people, we each are ultimately responsible for whether we feel heard or not.
My Experiences with Slander and Character Assassination
In my case, the first explosive event involved covert drugging where I was incapacitated for hours at a time over a period of days. During this time I was made to say several derogatory things –about specific people I knew, various ethnic groups and then-President GWB (ok, didn’t have to coerce me for those particular comments, but living in Texas, it’s not hard to find those violently Republican), to name a few. In fact, the comments made about the president were the most interesting to the perpetrators who drugged and interrogated me . Even in the state of drug-induced near catatonia it was clear to me that such disparaging remarks (however staged by them) were ‘pure gold’, and would probably be used against me at some point.
Based on the angry mutterings of some of my stalkers regarding everything from their ethnic origin to their beliefs and chronic ailments, it’s clear that many judgmental statements coerced from me while drugged have been used to anger and enlist various citizens in harassment against me.
That said, and since, I’ve found that just ignoring such effects or opening dialogue and asking them what they mean, seem to be the most useful types of response in those kinds of situations. Or, for when it’s obvious they are perps and not just repeators, as one TI really got across to me: tell the perps that you have a family too; appeal to their decency. How would they feel if their brother or mother were being followed and harassed like this? Ask them why they are doing this. etc. Can have some interesting effects, none of which Ive seen have been negative ,btw.